I celebrate my mom as much as I can, not just on Mother’s Day. My mom is very special to me and I look to her for strength, guidance and support. I kept a journal as a child and I am a very nostalgic person, so I like to remember times as a child with my mom. I know that those days were wonderful for her, but they were also hard. My mom was widowed at the age of 36, and I now know more than ever how hard it was for her because I just recently became a young widow at the age of 35 when my husband passed away unexpectedly from cancer on Jan 23rd.
My mom put herself through school to provide for three young kids. I never would have imagined I would be in the same position of needing to care for two kids on my own, but I hope that I have the strength to do the same thing she did.
It is hard. My mind is scattered, there is paperwork everywhere, and I am buried in the process of getting my affairs in order. Although I know mine and my mother’s are devastatingly unique situations, I think that most moms can understand the feeling of being overwhelmed by getting things done and feeling unable to take in the small moments that happen every day with our kids. I am thankful for Mother’s Day (and, honestly, any holiday) as a reason to stop and take stock of how my children are growing. Children can strive in spite of and because of great strife, and I want to remember their smiles at this age. I want to be able to mark this time in my life in positive ways and not look back and wish them away or say, “I can barely remember those years! They passed so quickly.”
The thing I think happens is that sometimes we forget who we are. We become engrossed in being a housekeeper, a cook, a chauffeur, an employee…and we forgot that those aren’t the things that we are, they are just the things that we do. So, I am building reminders in to my life to tell me to take stock of who I am. I hope that this will help me remember to be mindful and help me to find the strength I need during this time.
One thing that has the ability to remind me of who I am is my morning cup of coffee. The picture of my kids on this mug from Photobox reminds me that I am not even only identified as a widow. I am not the hardest parts of my life – a newly-single mother working through grief. I am the mother of two beautiful children who love their mother. That is the happiest part of my life and it’s what makes my view on Mother’s Day so important.
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Mother’s Day is a very special day! Especially this one our 6th baby will be due a week before! Spending the day with my blessings is very important to me.
It is a wonderful thin and a treasure to have a mother who you can celebrate and remember with love and admiration.
I agree it is easy to forget who we are. Hugs to you as you start this new journey and your own daughter will be able to look back on the kind of mother you are and draw inspiration from it.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Mothers are truly the strongest people. That coffee mug has got to be a special thing for you.
Big hugs as you start this new journey in life, I know it cannot be easy, but your positive attitude will no doubt help you along the way. You have got this mama
Thank you so much for your kind words Donna.
Wow – that mug represents so much and I totally understand. I am so sorry for your loss and happy that you have so many great memories.
I really look forward to Mothers Day. It’s one of the days that I get so spoiled!
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I am so sorry you lost your husband, best friend, father to your gorgeous children! Many of my bloggy friends have posted about your loss and I have been meaning to let you know that I am praying for you and will help support you and your family in any way I can. I know we have never met, not even online, but we are all a big bloggy family and your loss is as real as one of my own.
If you need any support, prayers or share this for me, just let me know.
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